We all eventually fall.
With lust, uncontested trust, magnificent love, and an appetite for comfort, we fall into love. A longing to be with the “other”—animal moans and primal groans only last so long.
At first, we fit together like clams’ shells, and other times we push and pull and only meld with a little lubrication.
Making the connection stronger—it’s often worth the trouble if you give it your best shot!
Real relationships are based on understanding and articulating both partners’ internal needs and feelings. This allows each to stay strong as individuals in a co-creative relationship that regenerates our beings.
Yet many of us have failed this simple mission. I know I have contributed to a breakdown of mental and emotional maturity with my spouse and, thus myself.
My next ex-husband?
But abuse must not be tolerated no matter how hard we seek relationships as a path of personal growth and comfort. Everyone comes with baggage—learned generational traumas and prejudices we aren’t aware of. We all have them, and it’s imperative to understand and heal these as a species.
I firmly believe that if we do this, we can start feeding and caring for all people and begin healing the planet.
Make it real & honest.
Authentic relationships prioritize open communication and honesty. Often this begins with our internal dialogue. Are we being honest with ourselves and how we perceive each other?
A commitment to real emotional connection means you’re honest with your own story.
It’s your internal narrative that often defends your position like armor and doesn’t let the truth or anyone else’s in.
I know I start thinking instead of listening sometimes when discussions get tough.
The ability to discuss complex and controversial issues is a sign of a healthy relationship, but that doesn’t always mean it’s easy.
This type of relationship encourages couples to discuss difficult topics openly in order to work through issues in a constructive manner.
Couples can assuage conflicts and feel closer & more connected. Being vulnerable and honest is the path to enjoying a true human marriage of souls and a life of learning and inner satisfaction.
Relationships that stand the test of time offer couples the stability and security necessary for a healthy long-term partnership. Couples in organic relationships feel safe and secure in their commitment, knowing that their partner will be there for them through thick and thin.
This type of relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust and loyalty, making it much easier to weather storms together.
Stormy weather ahead?
Couples in organic relationships learn how to express their feelings openly and honestly, instead of bottling them up or engaging in passive-aggressive behavior.
Don’t ignore the signs of passive-aggressive behavior, such as:
Resentment and opposition to requests.
Resistance to cooperation, procrastination, and intentional mistakes in response.
Cynical, sullen or hostile attitudes.
Frequent complaints about feeling underappreciated or cheated in some way.
If you’re struggling with passive-aggressive behavior — or you think a loved one is — consider consulting a therapist right away. It can save the relationship the earlier you seek help.
Studies show that couples in supportive, growth-oriented relationships have higher levels of happiness and satisfaction and are less inclined to develop mental health issues.
Fill each other’s capacity and potential.
Regenerative relationships offer couples the opportunity to reach their full potential as individuals and as a couple.
This type of relationship encourages individual growth while still allowing for shared experiences, creating feelings of fulfillment and meaning in the relationship.
It’s an opportunity to explore new activities and interests while learning how to support one another’s goals, dreams, and aspirations.
Institute special times to reconnect and grow your relationship, and make sure to plan activities that will bring the two of you closer together.
Go on a walk or hike in a new place, cook dinner together, or attend a local event like an art show or music festival.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure it’s something that both of you will enjoy and it will help to create an even stronger bond between the two of you.
For example, you can make a romantic shrimp scampi pasta for dinner tonight and share a bottle of wine while enjoying the sunset. And then read poetry aloud or dance to the light of the moon.
Happiness is organic in a true relationship.
Organic relationships tend to bring more happiness and satisfaction to couples’ lives because they focus on mutual growth, honesty, and understanding.
When they know their partner makes the commitment to understand them and will always be there to support them.
Count your blessings if your love life is organic and sustainable.
If you and your partner have been together for a while, it’s likely that your relationship has naturally evolved into an organic regenerative one. Couples tend to have a strong connection that stands the test of time, as well as a deep understanding and respect for one another’s feelings and needs. If you can identify with any of these qualities, then chances are you’re one of the blessed to be in an organic, sustainable relationship.
Now it’s time to help others do the same—just by example and with a little counseling, you can help them heal their wounds and grow together.
It’s what the planet needs.
